Reporting Elder Abuse - Not an Easy Task

It is very strange that opposing parties looking at the same situation can come up with totally different conclusion.

In reporting elder abuse cases, it is often extremely difficult to get proof that abuses occurred to someone who lives in a private home. It is definitely easier to prove physical abuse and blatant neglect than to try to prove subtle neglect and emotional/psychological abuse.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not trying to stop or discourage people from reporting, but just to share some experiences with others.

It might be easier if I take a case to demonstrate that caution must be exercised in reporting elder abuse.

The Frank Punito Case ( pls. note that that is not the person’s real name)is one that comes to mind. Documentary evidence, of different medium, were apparently in the hands of the author of that site. The victim’s permission was obtained before the site was put up. Furthermore, I was informed that witnesses testimony could be acquired, if needed.
However, that site owner/author has been strongly criticized recently.

To quote the author of that site:

“The main reason for the site is that it is an unbelievable case. Furthermore, in spite of all the proofs and testimonies available from the victim and witnesses, no one could help.
The abusers have the legal “trump card” called “Enduring Power of Attorney”.
Nobody really can help because the case was also bound up in a property settlement.”

(There must be changes in our laws to better protect older persons in our society. )

The sad thing about this case is that, the property settlement is over and Frank has been “removed” from the abuses. Now, there are those who expect the victim to just carry on as though nothing ever happened. Frank no longer wants to see his children. It is extremely difficult for him. He is losing interest in a lot of things.

Instead of giving support to the one who reported the case, there are those who said that the story should not be told and left on the site.
There were accusations of “an agenda” and “lies and deceits”.

A challenge by the author of that site, for the accuser to indicate which parts of the site are “lies and deceits” has not been responded to up till now.

What is ‘Emotional and Psychological’ Elder Abuse?

Simply put, it is:
Name-calling, "Silent treatment", Intimidate or threaten the individual; invoke fear or mental anguish; cause emotional pain or distress.
Elder Abuse and Neglect is a single or repeated act, or lack of appropriate action, occurring within any relationship where there is an expectation of trust,which causes harm or distress to an older person. It can be of various forms:
physical, psychological/emotional, sexual, or financial/material abuse, and/or
intentional or unintentional neglect.

( Definition from Toronto Declaration on the Global Prevention of Elder Abuse, 2002)
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As you can see from the above example. In spite of overwhelming concrete evidence, there will still be those who disbelieve that such a case occurred. This is a re-run of an olderposting. In fact, a nasty comment was left after that posting: "Give it a rest, A__!"
A cowardly act. The person did not even leave his/her name. Can a victim like Frank Punito
give his "emotional pains" a rest? Can he give his loss pride and dignity "a rest"?