Mothers, who hate to love motherhood
10/5/2009
Jammu: Since they parted her at the time of birth, the life widened the gap to an extent that the poor aged mothers wish not be called '''Maa'' by their own children ever again till death.
''I wish not to be called 'maa' by my children again, at least till my death,'' said Krishna, 75, one of the women inmates in the Old-age Home at Amphalla, Jammu.
While the entire world celebrates May 10 as ''Mothers' Day'', septuagenarian Krishna was praying that her body should not be touched by her children even after death.
Talking in Dogri dialect, Krishna disclosed that she had been abandoned by her children, including two sons. ''I was mother only till they (children) were not settled and after that I became a burden on their families'' octogenarian Kaushalya added while having lunch in a small dining hall of the old-age home.
A deaf and dumb inmate Mathua Koul, 80, cheerfully greeted this correspondent and tried to express herself in an easy-to-understand sign language. Mother of a Bank Officer son, Mathura Koul was living in the Old-Age Home since 1991, caretaker Pritam Chand disclosed.
There were 20 elderly women inmates, with a majority of them having well-settled children, who had taken shelter in this Old-Age Home to pass remaining years of their life.
''After being abandoned by their own children, these elderly mothers too have lost regards for them,'' Pritam Chand said.
''Over 150 people breathed their last here in the past 15 years, but children of only two inmates had turned up for last rites,'' the caretaker said, asserting that family members of departed inmates are always informed well before taking the body for the funeral.
Dr Jagdish Thappa, a senior Psychiatrist with the Government Medical College and Hospital, Jammu, said the children abandoning their parents is an outcome of low moral values in the society. ''The problem mostly arises in the families having weak social relations, and weak emotional bondage between parents and children,'' Dr Thappa said.
''The fast paced and stressful life has badly affected the moral values in modern society, where nuclear family structure have become most accepted,'' the Psychiatrist said, advising parents to give adequate time to their children and remain emotionally attached to them since early stage of their life.
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- If, children or relatives are ordered by the Tribunal to pay Maintenance to the elderly, fail to comply, they are liable to a fine or imprisonment.
- Abandonment of the elderly is now a cognizable offence. Anyone responsible for looking after or protecting the senior citizen, leaves him/her in any place with the intention of wholly abandoning, shall be punished and fined.
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